How to text men in the modern trans dating world is so complicated! Should you send text messages first? If you don't get a response from the man you like, should you text again? A wrong move and a cute fellow will slip through your fingers! Save all the pressure and learn to text men in the right way to make them your boyfriend.
1.You can send text messages first, but be careful
In my post on simple ways to make him your boyfriend, one of my main points is to let him take the lead. This includes letting him text you first to let you know he's interested in you. But that doesn't mean you can't text him first. In fact, doing so may give him the wrong impression. If he always initiates conversation, he may think you are not interested in him. In order to find the perfect balance here, try to make the ratio about 2:1. So if he texts first and then starts the last two conversations, it's your turn to start the conversation. Don't get too tightly numbered! If you keep counting conversations and text messages, you must think too much. The only reason I specify these things is to give you a general idea of what is expected. I'm doing this to let transgender women who think it's okay to text a man five times a day, and he barely responds, know that they may have overdone it. If you find that you are always the first person to send text messages, you must pull back the rule and let him play a more leadership role.
2.Use emoticons
I came across an article saying that people over 16 should not use emoticons. This is crazy! Emotional symbols play a very important role in short message conversation. If used properly, they will not be childish or immature. Text-based conversations are difficult to depict emotions and internal connections. A reader can think of an article as aggressive, but in fact it is only a satirical and harmless comment. So how can we increase the chances of information being conveyed in the right intonation? I can't imagine a rude or sarcastic conversation without blinking a face or sticking out my tongue and saying, "I'm just kidding." Emotional symbols are life. Keep using them, but as always - don't go too far.
3.Reaction within a reasonable time
When I first met my boyfriend, I didn't respond to his text message immediately. I did it because I didn't want to look too eager or interested. I want to play cool. Although this may be a good strategy, it may be too lethal. It doesn't make much difference if you reply in a few minutes after he texts you, or if you wait for an entire hour. However, the response time should not exceed one hour. This may make you look really uninterested.
4.Enjoy the dialogue
I often hear people I transgender hookup say they "don't like texting" and they prefer to talk face to face or make phone calls. It's true that texting is not the best. You can't go into too many details, you can't hear each other's voice to get their hints and sense of humor, and a conversation that usually takes five minutes may end up taking up a whole day.